WEDDING BLOG: Finally, A Little Excitement

I’ve complained, worried and obsessed my way through the first nine months of  being engaged (by the way, where did THAT go?) and I’ve finally reached a really important plateau.

I’m EXCITED!

Yay! Like really excited!

I don’t think I’ve got all the worrying or irritating bits even half out of the way yet but for the first time that’s not what I’m focusing on.

So I thought it was about time to blog about why this really is all great fun.

Because it really is and so much time is spent complaining about the stress and expense of wedding planning that it’s easy to forget that actually it’s really enjoyable too and you’re not mad for wanting to do it.

I really thought it would be a nightmare, but so far I’m enjoying it all tremendously.

When else in your life do you get to plan a huge celebration about you and your partner, choose personalised stationery (who doesn’t love stationery?), colour schemes and your favourite songs?

It makes my inner planning geek do happy somersaults. It’s just really fun to have a proper project to sink your teeth into.

A joint venture

It’s great fun to chat all your plans through together, too.

You can come up with hilarious and completely ridiculous ideas and themes and even if you never get to do any of them, it creates a mountain of in jokes, brings you closer together and reminds you that your shared sense of humour is just one of the reasons you’re getting hitched in the first place.

Some of your ideas will have to be vetoed, your nan is just not going to get it. But you can sneak a few weird/personal bits in.

(We ARE having X Files Mulder and Scully figurines as our cake toppers because our 2004 first date involved watching four hours of the show on VHS tapes I’d recorded off the BBC.) And suddenly everything really starts to feel fun and interesting and yours.

I’ve started to jot down some ideas for my speech and even imagine some of the aspects of the day and how it will go.

The families are getting involved too and there’s nothing like a shared project to really bring everyone together. Especially when it involves constructing a watertight marquee in a garden not quite big enough for one.

My brother has taken on the task of measuring up the garden and my dad has even fallen in love with a batch of chairs that he insists we simply must have (which is fine, if he pays for them!).

Both mums have sent me pictures of a variety of outfits they're considering wearing (let’s forget for the moment the issues I have with my own choice of dress) and even Adam is pondering the options for his suit. Options! Who’d have thought it.

They may be expensive, stressful and hard work, but weddings are great. That’s why so many people do them.

And I’m enjoying this transformation in myself from a few years ago where I would never have entertained the idea of getting married at all, to accepting a ring, agreeing to a small wedding to suddenly being so excited that we’ve got more than 100 people we care about enough to be there.

I’m doing some major backtracks and I expect more to be on the way but that’s OK. At least I’m not sweating it anymore. I can't bloody wait.

Did you actually enjoy your wedding planning?

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