We spoke to relationship expert, Maeve Crawford, who gave us a back-to-basics lesson on dating to tie in with the release of This Means War, out now on Blu-Ray and DVD courtesy of Twentieth Century Fox Home Entertainment.
Think you know it all? Try answering these three simple questions to find out…
Why is dating important?
a. You get someone to fall in love with you
b. You can impress your friends
c. You prove to your mum that you’re worthy
d. To meet as many possible dates as possible
Answer: d. To meet more men you need to meet more men! Whether you use online dating or accept blind dates through friends the aim should always be to meet as many interesting people as possible. That way you start to learn who is out there and what sort of qualities you are looking for in a partner.
What is the purpose of dating?
a. To decide whether you like someone enough to want to have another date
b. To practise your dating and social skills
c. To develop your confidence in choosing the right person for you
d. To practise being your authentic self
e. All of the above
Answer: e. Dating doesn’t have to be complicated. If you don’t click with someone simply say “I’m not sure that we are a good match, it was lovely to meet you, goodbye”. If you go on more dates nerves and social anxiety are less likely to influence your behaviour and you’re more likely to be your authentic self.
How do you know if someone likes you?
a. They have your name tattooed on their arm
b. They come straight up to you and tell you
c. They make eye contact and smile
d. They send their friend over to ask you out
Answer: c. Beware of men who come straight up to you and announce they’re attracted to you. Their attitude and lack of subtlety suggests they’re not being their authentic selves. If he keeps looking over and smiling he’s probably flirting and is open to a conversation. It’s then up to you if you start talking.
What do you think?
For more advice from Maeve on dating, relationships and attracting your soul mate, email her directly at firstname.lastname@example.org.