Grieving Widow Reveals Husband’s Last Words Before He Died Having Sex: 'You've Still Got Your Socks On'

Lucie Brownlee and her late husband Mark were trying to conceive when he suffered a catastrophic arrhythmia and died in the couple’s bed

A grieving widow has opened up about the moment her late husband died while they were having sex.

Lucie Brownlee was left heartbroken after becoming a 36-year-old widow when Mark died in front of her.

Lucie Brownlee has spoken out about the moment her husband died while having sex [North News & Pictures]
Lucie Brownlee has spoken out about the moment her husband died while having sex [North News & Pictures]

The couple were trying for a baby when he suffered a catastrophic arrhythmia in bed – tragically they had chosen that night to have sex because it was the optimum time to conceive.

But after the intelligence analyst collapsed, paramedics couldn’t revive him and he died on the scene.

Devastatingly, his last words were: "You've still got your socks on."        

The grieving widow says the last thing she heard him say was: 'You've still got your socks on' [North News & Pictures]
The grieving widow says the last thing she heard him say was: 'You've still got your socks on' [North News & Pictures]

Mark was just 37 when he died and was fit and healthy at the time, despite health problems previously.   
                                                                            
He’d collapsed four years before his death and medics discovered that his aorta had ruptured – but he’d gone on to make a full recovery after an operation.

Widowed Lucie – who has a six-year-old daughter with Mark – has written a book about her experiences, recounting how she became a widow so young and how she’s dealt with her grief.
                                                                            

"We were trying for a baby. We had lost a baby in November,” said the 38-year-old, who lives near Sedgefield in County Durham.
                                                                            
"Anyone who has tried for a baby knows there is small window every month during which it is the best possible time to conceive.                            
                                                                            

Lucie and her husband Mark were trying to conceive when he died tragically in bed [Lucie Brownlee/Mark]
Lucie and her husband Mark were trying to conceive when he died tragically in bed [Lucie Brownlee/Mark]

"We were at my mother's house for my grandmother's funeral. It wasn't ideal as were actually in my mother's bed but we didn't want to miss out on that window.                                                                    
                                                                            
"We hadn't been having sex for very long, we had only just started, when he collapsed.

"His last words to me were, 'you've still got your socks on'.              
                                                                            
"I thought he'd collapsed because of a problem with his heart, but it didn't cross my mind that he wouldn't wake up.                                    
                                                                            
"I called 999 and did CPR on him for half an hour before the ambulance arrived. Paramedics worked on him for 40 minutes, but he couldn't be saved. I was just in shock. I couldn't come to terms with it."                              
                                                                            

Lucie Brownlee created a blog 'Wife After Death' on a counselor's recommendation [Lucie Brownlee/Twitter]
Lucie Brownlee created a blog 'Wife After Death' on a counselor's recommendation [Lucie Brownlee/Twitter]

The professional writer and creative writing teacher then started to grieve for her husband – who died on February 11 2012 – in her own way, which worried some of the people closest to her.
                                                                            
She admits she 'drank like a fish' and embarked upon a 'completely inappropriate' affair with a plumber after Mark's death.          
                                                                            
"I drank an awful lot, and I started a fling with a plumber who had come round to do some work on my house,” she said.                          
                                                                            
"It was completely inappropriate, and my friends and family were worried that I wasn't coping with my grief in the right way.                              
                                                                            

The creative writing teacher has a six-year-old daughter with Mark [Lucie Brownlee/Wordpress]
The creative writing teacher has a six-year-old daughter with Mark [Lucie Brownlee/Wordpress]

"But what I have learnt is that there is no appropriate way in which to deal with grief.                                                                                                        
"People think there is a right way to grieve, that it should be in private. My grief has been chaotic and unruly. There are no rules to it.          
                                                                            
"I can be quite matter of fact about what happened, but when I sit down and really think about it, it hits me."                                        
                                                                            
Lucie started writing a blog in April last year on a counselor’s recommendation and has now published a book called Me After You, a non-fictional account of her experience grieving for Mark.        
                                                                            

Lucie has written a book about her experiences, 'Me After You' [Lucie Brownlee/Twitter]
Lucie has written a book about her experiences, 'Me After You' [Lucie Brownlee/Twitter]

"I couldn't write after Mark died. It took me over a year before I felt able to again,” she said.                                                                             
"And once I did, it was lovely, because it was as though I was spending time with Mark every single day.                                                
                                                                            
"He was such a positive person, so friendly and so loving. He was a one off in every possible way, including the way he died."

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