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WEDDING BLOG: Can I Press Pause?

The wedding is getting closer and closer, but Yahoo's Bride To Be just want to slow it all down a bit please

The last few weeks before your own wedding are peculiar.

We’ve got seven and a half weeks to go and this feels like a lull - the calm before the storm. Adam’s survived his Stag and we’ve agreed on (beautiful) bridesmaids dresses for my (gorgeous) best ladies.

Adam was forced into a Superman onesie at Heathrow (Yahoo)
Adam was forced into a Superman onesie at Heathrow (Yahoo)

The RSVPs are trickling in (get on with it, chaps!). We both got overly excited about picking up our new wedding rings. Everything is going according to plan. I think.

The weirdest thing about all this is that it’s us doing these things this time. We’ve been on the wedding merry go round with friends for the past few years, and now it’s time for us to jump off.

The Stag Do signalled our wedding juggernaut firing up and careering towards April, with us on board. There’s no stopping it now, it’s really happening and it’s picking up speed.

It feels quite surreal.

I’m beside myself with excitement, but if I think about it too much I just revert to tremulous list-making. Of course I’m nervous too - I feel a bit like a first-time actress ready for her debut theatre role, which isn’t too far off the truth. This is a performance in front of an audience after all.

Something like this is bound to happen, right?
Something like this is bound to happen, right?



What if I trip up in the aisle/fluff my lines/start laughing/burst into tears? When I imagine standing up there in front of so many people I get highly emotional in my imagination - so any of the above seem highly likely.

But mostly, I just want to press pause. I don’t want this to be over. I’m really enjoying the right now. It’s fun having a project and it’s just far enough away not to start panicking. Plus now it’s tangible, everyone has started to get excited with us.

Right now I have a completely manageable list of not-too-demanding things I need to do with a realistic timescale (pick up dress from tailors, find some tea tins, do some make-up practise).

But in a few weeks I’ll have my Hen Do and that will be the last wedding preamble before the day itself, which will come and go in a flash - and then be over forever.

We look really weird with wedding rings on (Yahoo)
We look really weird with wedding rings on (Yahoo)



The three weeks from Hen to wedding will presumably be full of frantic activity. All the things I’ve been putting off because it’s ‘too soon’ will actually need to be done. The so-far-utterly-impossible table plan will have to be pulled off, decisions on how on earth to cater for the guests with weird diet requirements will have to be made, speeches need to be written and hopefully practised.

We wanted a laid back, informal event, which is what we’ve achieved for the most part. But feeding, watering, heating and entertaining 100+ people needs a fair bit or organisation, however chilled out we’ve tried to make it.

I’m not quite ready to head into the actual stressful bit. But there are scant few weeks I can continue to avoid looking at my to-do list before I pile up more difficulties for myself by doing everything last minute.

But at least for now, deep breaths. Stop the world for a sec, I want to get off.

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