I fancy one of my friends. How can I find out if he feels the same without humiliating myself and possibly ruining the friendship?
There are three ways you can handle this:
1. Wait for him to make a move.
2. Drop some clanging hints you fancy him and then back off if he doesn't take the bait.
3. Get drunk and tell him.
Number two is by far the most sensible option. Even if the hint is really obvious, like you stare at his willy for 25 minutes, you can still both pretend it never happened and carry on as before.
Number three is riskier because friendships are not generally compatible with unrequited fancying. But you needn't be humiliated, as long as you accept it when he doesn't feel the same. Staying friends after that will be quite easy for him because he only sees you as a mate anyway and he'll probably forget your confession eventually... or at least assume the matter is closed.
[See also: How to tell them you 'just want to be friends']
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