Can mums really have it all?

I have 2 children age 4 and 7 months and i work part time i have to to be able to provide for them. My husband works full time and i think this is beneficial to our children. Working sets a standard and example for your children makes them understand that life is not handed to you on a plate, You work you earn you spend. Without showing this example children think benefits are the answer and that its ok to aspire to be nothing. Its ok for some woman whos husbands have fabulous paying jobs. My husband has a good job but with bills cars and a mortgage to pay i have no choice but to work. I also feel working gives me a break and a bit of time to be me instead of mummy which i enjoy!

Myleene....get back to the sink you wench and stop spreading your propaganda. There are still only 24 hrs in a day and only one lifetime given to each of us. Something has to give.

It seems that nobody looks back later and 'regrets' staying at home with their kids. For many people it's down to costs, but I've noticed that a lot of people who think that they're struggling are only doing so because their lifestyle choices force it on them, e.g. big house, expensive car, long commute to work and so on all of which can be changed if there's the will.

Myleene Klaas reckons she's a "baby guru" after having 1 kid!! What a load of #$%$!

Stop attacking one another! It's a tough choice! I felt I never did either did either job well. At work I thought about my baby - at home I thought about my work. I packed it in after 2 years of pain! I was a self confessed work-a-holic professional and needed to be good at the work I did and decided that suddenly included my family!. Now I've done that I can go back! Take some time ladies if you can afford it - money is not everything! I am grateful I gave him some time and lucky I could afford to in these financially trying times. We can't afford holidays but we have love! I am so glad I spent the time with him and will relish my time back at work - when I find a job!

So Myleene has had 1 child and is able to preach on the whole internet constantly about all the issues that come with losing a child, giving birth to a child, raising a child, breastfeeding, not breastfeeding etc when in none of these articles, does she actually portray herself with her baby, because it is obviously at home with a high paid nanny and/or it's father. a luxury 99% of us do not have. Us real mums must get annoyed with this?

mylene what position did you have sex in

pointless, regurgatated rubbish. not at all an original point of view, not at all helpful.

It has to be said if you want to have children and women don't absolutely need to go out to work then in my opinion mum's should stay at home atleast until baby is 2. As a father and a child of a mother who went to work when I was 3 months you are likely to lessen the bond between mum and baby!

haha, wow so many random answers. Yes you can have it all, if it's balanced. I have 2 children and i work. I enjoy working AND being a mum. Yes, its difficult to juggle everything but work helps me keep my own identity. In an ideal world perhaps us Mums wouldnt work? i dont think i'd personally go for that tho - im a MUM 1st and foremost but im also ME!

First the question is shocking! Why does it have to be the MUM to stay home with kids? Why is it the MUM who has to question or jeopardize her career and not both DAD & MUM? sexist society ..and not talking about India or else where it's worst obviously.

Motherhood's a choice. Unless yr a mother who knows how to put 48 hours in a 24-hour day, you can't have it all, and you're deluded if you think otherwise. Choosing, as a grown-up, involves sacrifice. So, if you're working and a mother, you are going to not bond with your child as successfully as a stay-at-home mum. That's a sacrifice you choose to make. Mothers who think they can have it all are really just spoiled little girls playing with dollies. Grow up, put your child first, you chose to have them, they didn't choose to be born to someone who can barely be bothered to escort them from the womb before heading out as far from them as possible.

@Jason, Those milestones may go on to help people bond with their childer properly. Otherwise we may aswell not have kids and give my money to a childrens charity to children who really need it, maybe adopt. I mean are you giving your children a fulfilling life or are you taking away an important parental role.

Having said that however, this does bring into question how necessary parental roles are. Many people (and just about every celebrity with an autobiography) seems to have had a hard up bringing, many from broken homes and below the breadline living. However this seems to have little effect either way to someones success later in life. So it seems there is little you can really do to control your childs future

Giving your child creature comforts in early life by working hard and never seeing them just to for them to throw it back in your face 20 years later doesn't seem ideal to me. And while the same thing may happen to a stay home parent you can at least be happy for the time you did spend with them enjoying those 'few milestones'

disgusting if you have to have children at least be there to look after them the world over populated get a life

If women are lucky enough to have children, then they should see it as a privilege to see them grow up and watch them develop every step of the way. Going to work could mean you miss out on these milestones.

Everyone's circumstance is different. I've experienced both sides. Great to be home, but money becomes an issue (especially during these difficult times) and can cause a strain in the relationship if the mum is dependent on her husband's income. (Grumpy mum+grumpy dad = miserable family!) On the other hand, working mum means paying childcare costs, which are ridiculously high. 6 week summer holidays should be reduced to 3 weeks so parents have more holiday to attend school activities. Employers should be more flexible and allow job share where possible for those who like to start work early and others who like to start late. Times have changed, why do we still have to work like we're living in the Victorian era? A few tweaks here and there will make life more bearable for both working/non-working mums.

If you are selfish enough to have kids, you should look after them. Like many men however, I have opted out of the marriage and children lifestyle.

yosingapa???????????

Work from Home fuff the lot of them.....

My mum is a stay at home mum and i think she's done a wonderful job of raising me, i'm owe my mum a lot for raising me well :)
When and if i have children i'd like to be a stay at home mum but if i have to work then i will.