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    Brides in black: what do men really think?

    Picture the scene: the church is full of excitement, anticipation and immaculately attired guests, the nervous groom is waiting at the altar, the organ stirs into life, heads turn, and here comes the bride, an absolute picture, all dressed in... black!

    The growing trend for young brides to take their vows wearing what for generations has been considered the colour of mourning could soon be all the rage. The grande dame of wedding dress design Vera Wang is leading the charge by tearing up the bride-to-be's rule book and decking her models in dramatic and some would say unnerving black wedding gowns.

    Vera Wang Bridal collection autumn/winter 2012 © Vera Wang

    And as we all know, what influential designers such as Vera Wang parade on the catwalk has a habit of trickling down to the High Street and into the heads of fashionable young brides.

    [See also: How to choose the perfect wedding dress]

    Now while Johnny Cash, Marilyn Manson and hordes of pale-faced goths would no doubt approve of this startling new direction in wedding attire, what does the average man in the pub think about women wearing black or any colour wedding dress that isn't virginal white? We hit a busy boozer full of testosterone and opinions in the Welsh capital of Cardiff to find out.

    Although it feels like there is something eternal and sacred about a women wearing white on her wedding day, this wasn't always the case. Until 1840 women of all status and age got married in a variety of hues, but when Queen Victoria married Prince Albert in 1840 all dressed in white, she started a trend seemingly without end, and 44-year-old Cardiff man Andy Knowles who has been married for 24 years believes if it ain't broke don't fix it.

    "If my wife had worn any colour other than white on her wedding day it would have been a bloody disgrace. The whole church would have walked out and I would have joined them. Back then if anybody wore black to the wedding it meant they disapproved of the marriage in some way. What's a young fella supposed to think if the women he's committed to spending the rest of his days with, turns up on the big day dressed like she's going to a funeral?"

    [Gallery: The top ten iconic brides of all time]

    The Beatles once famously sang, "Oh dear, what can I do? Baby's in black and I'm feeling blue." But this is not a sentiment shared by 21-year-old Swansea bachelor boy Rob Baker who confessed, "I must admit if I was going to marry any woman, I'd be more than happy for them to wear black. It's a far more sexier and classier colour than white, but given a choice I'd like to see all brides wearing something tight, short, revealing and pink."

    Newport Divorcee, Gary Ball, 37, knows all about colourful wedding dresses. His ex-wife wore brown on their big day and their marriage lasted for only four years. Gary revealed, "If I got married all over again, I'd do it properly. I'd have the full church wedding and the wife wearing white. It's not only traditional but it's a good omen to have the bride in white. I never wanted my wife to wear brown in the first place. My mother warned me at the time that it was unlucky, and do you know, I think she was right."

    Gavin Sherwill, 26, Bridgend, is getting married in six months' time and has no idea what colour wedding dress his wife-to-be will be wearing. "She's keeping everything but the bloody price of the thing a big secret," explained Gavin before adding, "But you've got me thinking that maybe she's going for something different, because she's a bit like that when it comes to clothes. I wouldn't be happy if she married me in black because my mates would never let me live it down. Having said that, any other colour would be fine by me."

    While every bride wants to turn heads, none of them want to turn stomachs, but that's exactly what 32-year-old Luke Davies believes would have happened if his wife had worn any other colour than white on their wedding day.

    "Women dress all in white on their wedding day because it makes them look elegant, sophisticated and pure. They can wear black, blue, and red any day of the week, but you only get married once. My wife wore all white and she looked stunning, and to be honest, even the thought of her wearing any other colour as she walked up the aisle makes me a little bit sick."

    So there we have it. Eighties pop star Billy Idol was desperate for his sister to have a white wedding, and it seems by and large that modern men are still not overly keen to have their brides-to-be taking their vows all dressed in black.

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    • MANDY  •  London, England  •  3 months ago
      i got married in a black wedding dress and white dr martins and mr husband wore all black and white star wars trainers, my husband thought it was great x
    • JustARandomPerson  •  3 months ago
      Vera Wang? Hurr hurr *immature laugh* Ahem, anyway, I think the dresses are gorgeous! I want to get married in a black dress ^^ The color doesn't matter, and if a guy called off the wedding because his bride was in black, then he doesn't deserve to marry anyway. You should choose what to wear, it is, after all, your special day.
    • stewart  •  Wigan, England  •  3 months ago
      its all down too brain washin. wear what yu want,blocks wear pink yu gay,conditioning.
      live life yu want too live it,why wear black at a funaral .morbid wear what you want .they wont care.i lost my dad i dont think he is botherd. just remember them,they dont want you to be sad..you die then come back.
    • Jo  •  London, England  •  3 months ago
      I think if I wore black at my wedding my husband would chuckle. The guests might freak my hubby wouldn't have cared
    • Joe  •  Tehran, Iran  •  3 months ago
      no idia about married,,,,,,still serching,,ehemp2,
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    • UK traveller and adopted ...  •  Reading, England  •  3 months ago
      When my wife and I married, we BOTH wore black - unlucky? We`re still together after 42 years - it did cause concerns from both sets of in-laws, but hey we still cause concerns!
      • Charlotte 3 months ago
        congratulations on your long succesful marriage
      • KIRSTY 3 months ago
        Good for you! It doesn't matter what colour is worn as long as you're both committed to eachother! xx
    • DAVID  •  3 months ago
      I always thought brides wore white so they matched the other kitchen appliancws!

      Only JOKING ladies, my wife wore blue and liiked fantastic.
      • JM 3 months ago
        Surely you mean licked!
      • kirsty 3 months ago
        liked you fool
      • Chloe 3 months ago
        looked actually
    • A Yahoo! User  •  Brighton, England  •  3 months ago
      its the brides day let her wear what she wants, i must admit i like black, and very sexy, go on girls were what you want.
    • tilly  •  3 months ago
      i got married in 2008. i wore a beautiful black wedding dress. my whole life i wanted my dress to be black. my husband was very supportive of that choice and my family were too. a few of the guests thought it a bit odd, but it was accepted as what i wanted.
      i made one concession with my choice and i now wish i hadnt. one family member was not happy about the choice and made things difficult so i gave in a little and had some white on my dress. i really wish i hadnt given in as now when i look at my wedding pictures i just see compromise that i should never have had to make. the wedding is for the bride and groom and all desicions about it should be up to them. so i firmly believe that if the bride and groom want a black dress then that should be fine. any colour and any style should be fine. i even know people who married naked!
    • DAVID  •  London, England  •  3 months ago
      My wife wore a green suit when we got married. Our families couldn't afford a big wedding with all the trimmings. That was nearly 50 years ago and we are still together. The colour and style of clothes really does not matter, it's the relationship that counts.
    • Phil  •  London, England  •  3 months ago
      My mum wore a pale green dress on her wedding day, and my dad wore a matching green three-piece suit. I think they both looked great, so it shouldn't really matter what you wear as long as you're happy!
    • tired  •  Ilford, England  •  3 months ago
      I got married in a knee length black dress with small flowers on it. Still going strong 16 years later. It was our day, and thats all that counts.
    • Amanda  •  Warwick, England  •  3 months ago
      I couldn't care less if i wore a potato sack at my next marriage - as long as I married the right man this time!! Do like the black though.
    • JANET  •  Edinburgh, Scotland  •  3 months ago
      I have been very happily married for 38 years - and was married in black. The colour of the dress is not important - the person in it is.......
    • Heather G  •  London, England  •  3 months ago
      I wore a black dress at my wedding 16 years ago, but then I have always worn black. I have even decorated my house in black and have a black kitchen. So what's new. I've been with my husband 23 years and the colour wasn't bad luck for us. We still feel the same way about each other after all this time.
    • andrew e  •  Hitchin, England  •  3 months ago
      The colour of the dress is nothing if you love the person in it, it could be neon pink with vomit green polkadots snd it would'nt matter if you loved her,you would'nt see the dress, only the person in it
    • CP  •  3 months ago
      Yep! Black is sexy and has no significance to me. If I was marrying the right women, I'd marry her if she wore jeans. Any takers? :)
    • Tom  •  Liverpool, England  •  3 months ago
      If my bride in black looked like the two in the photos, yes I would happily marry them.
      Otherwise? Yeah why not, colours don't scare me!
    • IAN  •  London, England  •  3 months ago
      Isn't there an unwritten rule about blokes not criticising the wife's attire? If black dresses are acceptible at other occasions, why not weddings? Besides; it's #her# big day, so let her wear what she likes!