Dear Lady and The Scamp,

I am in a weird situation, which he calls a "strong casual relationship". Is this the same as an open relationship? He's still looking and dating around but I cannot do the same because I have fallen for him and am now in a bit of grey area. He has been honest since the beginning. He's happy with his dating life and me. He doesn't want us to break up (he said the decision is on me). I am his 'serious' relationship at the moment. And he has been 'hinting' that we may end up together in a special and exclusive way (maybe not too). Lately he even 'suggested' a proper relationship. But he doesn't know when… he might even keep dating forever. Why does he get my hopes up but then not give up his dating life?
Please advise. I really like him, and if I have to end this, I need to find reasons that makes sense to him (he's very logical).

RLA

Kevin says:

I'm surprised this guy has time to date so many women. He must spend at least a few hours a day slapping down high

Dear Lady and The Scamp,

I have been dating my boyfriend for three months, we are already living together and he is a sweetheart. He is very kind, caring and affectionate but considering his past relationships and adventures - he proudly says he "loves women" - I wonder if I will be enough for him. Every day I wonder if he has been faithful to me. I go home early from work, check his phone - I don't even recognize myself anymore. I am desperately looking for signs to give me peace of mind. I have no proof he is cheating but I can't go on like this. Advice?

Giorgi

Christine says:

STOP IT STOP IT STOP IT. That is the best advice I can give you. Just stop being a crazy lady. It will ruin your sanity and your relationship. I agree it's probably not the greatest idea he's ever had to tell you how much he 'loves women' but sometimes men are idiots, just like you're being now. How would you feel if he checked your phone? It's a controlling thing to do and once you've started, it just breeds

Dear Lady and The Scamp,

Recently, my girlfriend was invited to a work event that was very important to
her: she told me a lot about how interesting she would find it and how "inspiring" she found some of the people who were going. She said she was attending - but didn't tell me she was inviting a gay man friend of hers. The truth only slipped out about a month later, when she was staying at my house (taking a lot of hospitality from me, as usual) and showed me a video of the event which showed the two of them together.

Do you think I should end a relationship in light of this? I'm trying to convince myself that I should carry it on but surely if I was important to her she would have invited me first, not her gay friend, or at least been open and honest with me about what she was doing. She's taken a lot of hospitality from me and I usually pay for most things, so shouldn't she have given me first shot?

Howard

Kevin says:

I don't want to cause trouble here but first things first...