My boyfriend and I have a fantastic relationship and we are very glad we've found each other. The problem is he said he doesn't ever want to get married and I do, in fact I've had my wedding dress picked since I was a child. How can I convince him he's wrong?

Alice

Kevin says:
I imagine you've already tried to convince him, and it hasn't worked, so scrap that. A man will only be persuaded to marry for the same reason he's persuaded to do anything - all his mates start doing it. It's like when they all got plasma screen TVs in 2005. So a better option would be to convince his mates to get married instead. Just gradually try to whittle down his social life to nothing, and then he might consider it.

Alternatively, respect his choice. He's not "wrong", as you put it, just because his view is different to yours. Constant nagging will only make him less inclined to devote his life to you.

It's sweet that you picked your wedding dress when you were ickle... at least it probably was at the

I saw in the internet history on my PC that my husband has been looking at porn sites. I couldn't believe it; I didn't think he was into that stuff. Doesn't he fancy me anymore? Should I confront him on it?
Claire

Kevin says:
You're shocked that a man looks at porn? That's like being shocked that a single woman looks at funny cat videos. All men look at porn; doesn't matter if he's Russell Brand or the Dalai Lama. They might not do it every day but they have before, and they will again. So don't take it personally. Otherwise you'll be competing against women with made-up names and fake breasts who exist only on the screen of a laptop. He's not in love with any of them, trust me.

He obviously never mentioned this hobby before because he thought you'd be upset — and judging by your reaction he was right. So if you do confront him, try to do so in a calm and understanding way. Hopefully he doesn't get flustered and blurt out an embarrassing made-up excuse, like the cat trod on the

Christine says:

Oh dear, oh dear. What shall we do with mummy's little soldier? Probably tell him to grow up and stop being such a wuss.
In a way it's nice that he has such a great relationship with his mum and doesn't just shout 'I'm putting you in a home!' down the phone at her. It's normally girls that are better at ringing their mum and making sure she gets acknowledged on birthdays and Christmases, so it's a good sign that he cares.

However, some mothers find it difficult to let go when their little bunny-bumpkins moves out, even more so when they shift their affection to another woman. Without getting too Freudian, she's probably a little jealous and likes to still be in control, and he probably likes still getting his pants bought for him and his sandwiches cut into the shape of a