Dear Lady and The Scamp,

My boyfriend is the most perfect guy I've ever met, I love him so much. But I'm ashamed to admit I've started really fancying another guy who I'm friends with. There's no way I would ever cheat on my boyfriend, but I can't stop thinking about this other guy. To be honest, if I hadn't met my current boyfriend he'd be exactly what I'm looking for in a partner. I don't love him and I know it's just a crush but I can't stop it. It's unforgivable to want someone else like this. Should I avoid him even though we're great friends, or tell my boyfriend and deal with the consequences?
Yours,

Ashamed and Confused

Kevin says:

Alas, you can't stop yourself fancying someone. I found this out to my cost when I developed an irrational crush on Eamonn Holmes aged 14 (I was 14, not him). There was something about the cheeky glint in his eye, his screen presence, those muscles. I guess they call it 'star quality'. I was bewitched, even though I'm as heterosexual as John Terry.

Dear Lady and The Scamp,

I recently convinced my ex bf to go on a date with one of my best friends out of guilt, as I was seeing other people and he wasn't. Turns out they hit it off immediately and now they're together. Before we used to talk about everything but recently all we do is argue and I feel so angry he got with my friend. My friend sleeps around a bit and isn't really right for him. I have told him this but he doesn't seem to mind. This is really getting me down as I feel betrayed and that I have lost a really good friend in my ex. What do I do?

Jess

Kevin says:

I can't help feeling you might be partially responsible for this pickle. In the same way that, for instance, a man who downs 15 Jägerbombs is partially responsible for walking into a lamppost on his way home from the pub. And your protests now ring as hollow as his the next morning, when he blames the inventor of Jägerbombs (I think it was Eammon Holmes) for his hangover.

You set them up! And it's now clear you

Dear Lady and the Scamp,
I have been on two outings with a young, carefree girl from uni who is 10 years younger than me (I'm 30). First we went just for a coffee. She laughed at all my jokes and agreed with everything I said, she even invited me to do some meditation together. After our second outing, we became Facebook friends and to my surprise, she posted pictures of her kissing lots of men. She might have some other admirers and who are younger and fitter than me (I am fat but humorous, joyful and sociable) but I'm too old for games. How do I tell her I like her? And how can I tell if she really likes me?
Eddie

Kevin says:

Well it's no surprise she agreed to a second "outing" after you wooed her with your humour, joy and sociability, but maybe this means she just likes you as a friend. Think about it: you're fat and in your thirties, whereas she is a carefree minx with dudes queuing up to give her a snog.

But I could be wrong. Were they actually dates that you went on, or just