Dear Lady and The Scamp,

I've recently broken up with my girlfriend but have realised that I want to get back together. The reason we broke up is because I didn't think that I wanted to be with her and thought I wanted somebody else. This led to me putting less effort in to the relationship and then we mutually broke up about two months ago.

The time apart has made me realise that I do want to be with her and I was a fool for thinking otherwise. So I have asked her to get back together, but she seems unsure and reluctant. I wrote her a letter telling her how I feel, bought her Christmas presents and we have even been on a few dates but when it comes to getting back together, she is still reluctant.

I hate game playing but I feel I have been up front about how I feel enough already. What is the best way to handle this situation from here on? Getting back together is what I want and I don't want to blow it.

Drew

Christine says:
Oh, so you're sorry now? Well that makes it all OK then.

Dear Lady and The Scamp,

I have recently started having a crush on a friend of mine. A few months ago her friend asked me out but I (very gently) turned her down because I do not like her that way. The person I do like is in an open relationship with someone else. A group of us have met up before and me and her always seem to be getting along really well. So I was just wondering, is there anything I could do to just get her to lean slightly in my direction?

Michael
 
Kevin:

I'm always trying to get women to lean in my direction, but they rarely do. In fact, I often sense that they are inclined to lean slightly away from me. So I can't give you a magic solution (although I can tell you, from experience, that women do not like it when you physically drag them in your direction).

It may not come to that though. This 'open relationship' is the key. You need to find out more about it. Namely, whether she wants it to be open or whether her boyfriend is some sexy Mick Jagger—type character who

Dear Lady and The Scamp,

I met this woman online, we chatted then she gave me her number. We texted constantly for weeks and we met once and had arranged to meet again. I thought that she liked me from what she was saying in her messages, and I told her that I really liked her. The past week though she has been really cold and the texts have dried up, so I asked her if anything was wrong. She replied that we wouldn't work out but that we could stay in touch. I'm confused.

Mark
 
Kevin says:

There could be a million reasons why this has happened. Maybe she got back with an ex, or she fell off the ketamine wagon, or your mum got in touch and told her to back off, or she was Mark Lamarr in a mask all along. These are all probably wrong but you've only met the girl once, so who knows what's going on in her head?

You probably never will know for sure. But given the limited information provided, I'd suggest there's one possibility that's most likely... you have scared her off. I'd like to know