Dear Lady and The Scamp,
I will be 40 this year and no word of a lie, I get people thinking I am in my early to mid 20s - and no, it's not just people being nice. Anyhow, there is a young guy that I like - he is 31 and a very sexy young man. We had sex once but things got messy. We got chatting again but he had things going on in his life and I felt like an old fool throwing myself at this young guy. The thing is, I really like him and we have a lot in common.
We have started talking again via email and he always replies. The thing is I really just want to be his friend but I think he thinks I might be after more. I am not saying I don't fancy him but I really don't want anything more than his friendship. How do I get him to be easy with being my friend and not afraid that I will pounce on him?
So, he's "very sexy", you "fancy" him and you've already had sex. Yet you're not interested? It might be tough to convince him of that - you haven't even managed to