This is a question a couple of single girl friends of mine asked me the other day. I was quite amazed that these savvy, sophisticated women in their early 30s, who had both been around the block, hadn't yet managed to solve this perennial dating conundrum. And they listened to my response with wide-eyed fascination, as if I was revealing a secret recipe for fat free chocolate brownies or naming Eastenders actors with super-injunctions concealing their participation in bestiality.
But it wasn't rocket science. Here's what I told them (not verbatim, obviously)...
There's a theory that men want sex, and sometimes even expect it, after a first date. But this is misleading. Most men only crave first-date sex with girls they don't especially like. This might seem paradoxical but it's simply because if a guy decides a girl isn't relationship material, he figures he may as well sleep with her anyway.
In this sense, girls have virtually nothing to gain by putting out onRead More »from After how many dates should you have sex with a man?