A new poll reveals that one in five men expect to have sex if they spend more than £100 on a date, meaning we should all be wary of especially flashy dates. Really? Because if you ask me, I say being taken for a swanky meal sounds er, pretty darn GREAT and could just mean a man’s trying to impress us. Plus, if you go for dinner and he’s paying for the night, it’s not that ridiculous to think the bill might reach £100. So what you might think is a dating ‘warning’ sign might not actually be all that bad after all, ladies...
Warning sign #1: He’s not your usual type
We’ve all been there – you turn up and your heart sinks because for whatever reason, he doesn’t fit your Mr Perfect mould. But before you bail, give it a shot. Dating with an open mind is a bit like that time you went shopping after Happy Hour – you tried on a shed load of crazy things you’d never normally be seen dead in and hey – discovered pyjama pants to be your new wardrobe staple. Too often somebody ‘perfect’ on paper turns out to lack the zing you’re after, which is why dating outside the box is worth a shot. Who cares if he’s wearing boots that look like something threw up around his ankles? Shoes you can change. Personalities? They’re trickier.
Warning sign #2: He’s late
We know being late isn’t the best sign, but let’s not be too militant about it. Of course, if he’s significantly tardy – and unapologetic to boot – he’s essentially saying his time is more important than yours, which just won’t wash, but don’t be too quick to judge. Always give him the chance to apologise and make it up to you – traffic can be awful and maybe his boss really was being a nightmare. Plus, on basically every single date I’ve been on, my friends have always barked at me, “Arrive ten minutes late, you don’t want to be waiting there for him like a lemon!” so maybe he’s just doing the same thing. Personally, I quite like getting there first and nabbing a seat – it avoids the awkward 'which-one-is-my-date?' scenario as you rock up to the busy pub, squinting like a mole at every single man in the vicinity.
Warning sign #3: He talks about his ex
This is the big one – the one jaw-dropping topic of conversation that has the potential to stop a budding-romance dead in its tracks, right? Wrong. Anyone else bored of hearing, ‘Run if he mentions his ex!’? Obviously, it’s not a great idea to wax lyrical/bitch about them all night, but is mentioning their name really as terrible as it sounds? Picture the scene: You ask where he lives and he briefly mentions how he’s just moved to a new area because he was living with his ex before they broke up. Not the dream scenario admittedly, but do you a) run away screaming for the hills because he mentioned his ex OR b) think "Cool, he’s being honest" and appreciate that we’ve all had crappy breakups? And if he mentions her in a seemingly unrelated discussion about say, holidays or this ‘totally crazy party I went to last week...’? Simply consider that maybe they’re still friends (which shows he’s not a complete a**hole) or perhaps they’ve got loads of mutual mates and managed to stay civil.
Warning sign #4: You argue
Dates are like job interviews: you only have a limited amount of time to get across your interests and unique selling points. So, personally, I think a ‘passionate’ AKA fiery debate is the perfect way to discover his thoughts and work out how compatible you really are in a short space of time. It’s easy to be nice, polite and pleasantly agreeable, but surely it’s more important to find out where you stand on meatier issues, like the merits of say, East Coast rap vs West Coast (oh OK, that’s just me). I'm not suggesting you go all 'Jeremy-Paxman', but questioning his beliefs or challenging his viewpoint a little will reveal a heck of a lot more about him than asking what GCSEs he took.
Warning sign #5: You don’t kiss
The end of a beautiful night has arrived and you’ve surreptitiously chewed enough Wrigleys to leave you fresher than a Swiss alpine lodge. But wait, he’s not making a move! Before you start sobbing on the night bus home, this doesn't always signal bad vibes. First date? Maybe he’s nervous – it is a pretty big leap with someone new and maybe he's not sure you'll reciprocate. The other option is that he’s a gentleman and sees you as different to his other conquests – and this is his way of showing it. Either way, if he's asking you out again, you can be sure he's into you and that when you do finally lock lips, it'll be all the better for it.
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